“I learned a long time ago that some people would rather die than forgive. It’s a strange truth, but forgiveness is a painful and difficult process. It’s not something that happens overnight. It’s an evolution of the heart.” ~ Sue Monk Kidd
Ah yes, forgiveness. One of the hardest things to conquer this side of heaven. And the degree of the offense ~ the indiscretion, the abuse, the torment, the betrayal – all determines just how hard it really is. But it is SO necessary for our own well-being – for our own freedom.
I love this quote as well – and I’ve gone back to it in the half-cocked vault of my mind many times –
“Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.”
If I had not learned what forgiveness truly was & why I needed to do it so desperately I would not be as free today as I am. I would not have the relationships I do nor have a wonderful man in my life because I would’ve run him off already – out of fear. And self-protection.
It is a prison all wrapped up in chains ~ and the ultimate irony is that we hold the key to get free the entire time we are bound.
It can be like a cancer, devouring away at the good stuff, the stuff that brings joy to our life when we are open. Robbing us of so much because we refuse to bend. It can cause us to medicate it, to drown it, to eat it away – but the irony is it’s never enough. It doesn’t work. It’s a black hole with an infinite appetite.
It’s truly not for the other person nearly so much as it is for us – & sometimes it is solely for us.
It is worth pursuing – freedom at a painful cost – but the benefits far outweigh the process.
And don’t we all need a little forgiveness of our own too? None of us are perfect – that being said in varying degrees. None of us deserve it – but what a wonderful feeling when we finally give or receive from that bitter cup.
Much love & more forgiveness – some for the very first time,
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