Firstly, a HUGE thank you to all the views on the post yesterday – and especially for all the comments & private messages. Thank you for trusting me to share such intimate details of your life -past & present, your struggles & the varying degrees of pain you have faced being single.
Has it ever almost felt like a point of shame – feeling so lonely & having some of the struggles you’ve had? Especially when you get advice from people who seem or claim to have just “breezed” through it like a warm spring day. Like you just need to get over it- just be happy every day and “when the time is right” it will happen again. OK, so you get all that – as do I. And there is some absolute-spot-on-truth in there but I myself have not mastered it 100%. Feel familiar?
Admittedly, some days I get a big fat A+ & others a big fat F. Some days I ugly-cry like a baby who’s favorite toy got greedily snatched away & others I am almost euphoric – filled with hope for new things to come. I call those my grace-filled days. Thankfully I seem to have more of those than the aforementioned. God is good even when life isn’t so peachy.
On the contrary to the rough spots, we all have blessings in our life that help us along. For me, my biggest here in this wide world is my 22 years-young son – who I couldn’t be more proud of. He is a miracle. And as he would say about me as his Mom, it still doesn’t take the place of a mate in life. We have had this discussion. He has so many years ahead of him, but he wants the same thing we all do. Age does not discriminate the need for that kind of relationship.
Being single can certainly be a battle. Just like any other. Married or committed couples face battles too – just together, hopefully. But a battle is a battle. Why judge someone else’s journey when we all have our own? Where we may point fingers at one stretch of bumpy road & criticize someone else’s ambling along, we are stuck in a ditch of a different kind – and your point is? Hello.
I admonish you & I speak to myself – please do not carry shame. If you pick it up fling it down after you have rolled in it briefly. Brush off & keep getting up. It’s ok. Really. You can do this.
Please feel free to continue to message me, comment etc. Things shared in private will stay there. There is nothing you could say to me or tell me that I would judge – I have probably done it all anyway. If there is a mistake to be made in relationship- I have most likely sailed those ships & run them aground.
Here’s to being single till we are not, and the kinship in between –
Much love & joy for this arduous journey,